Friday, October 24, 2008

For the Love of Service: Slave Applications

Many people contact Me wanting to know whether I accept personal slaves. To my dry amusement, most queries of this nature sound something like this (perhaps taken from "Writing Personal Slave Acceptance Letters For Dummies??" At first, I was mistaking this type of rhetoric for genuine desire; I'd now prefer not to repeat My mistakes...

"Dear Mistress,
I have decided that my life means nothing without absolute and total surrender to a Mistress. I just know that that Mistress is you. I am floating in a sea of meaninglessness and I need to be treated like dirt 24/7 in order to convince myself that somehow serving you is going to rescue me from the rest of my intolerable reality. I want to give up my job, my life, everything for you and live in your backyard tethered to a tree. Please please answer as I cannot go on any longer with this void...blah blah blah...."

Fact One: I am entertaining the notion of personal slaves at this time.
Fact Two: If your introductory letter to Me sounds anything like the whining, pathetic mock-up printed above, please don't send it. Your chances of being accepted into My inner circle are slim to non-existant.

Ok, so then how should inquiries of this nature look?
First of all, treat it like a job application. If you are trying to convince your employer that you are a worthy candidate, the first thing you want to do is to convince your employer that you are an asset to the team. Your employer is not interested in hiring a worthless heap of self-pity. I want slaves that have self-worth and self-esteem. What skills do you have that you think the employer might be looking for? What are your "selling points", the skills, talents, abilities, or resources that you possess that you might like to offer Me as the focus of your service? What kind of slave are you? (eg. a chauffeur slave, a domestic slave, a bootblack, a shopping slave, an errand slave, etc.) Do not underestimate any of your abilities - the unique and unusual ones are what make you stand out to me amongst many applications. Present these assets of yours to me in a way that communicates humility (egotism doesn't do it for Me either), but also an awareness of your own value as a human being.
Second of all, I am always more likely to accept slaves who have sessioned with me regularly for a period of time, as it allows time to determine O/our compatibility, and demonstrates your loyalty and determination to serve. Are you true to your word or does the reality of service not match the fantasy you were entertaining in your mind?
Third of all, tell me about yourself as a whole person. Are you emotionally stable? Do you enjoy other aspects of life beyond submission? What are your hobbies? What are some of your accomplishments in life? I take pride in my slaves and want to encourage their goals and aspirations beyond our D/S dynamic.

Hopefully this illuminates more clearly what I am looking for. I look forward to hearing from you.

Thursday, October 16, 2008

Mapping Your Sexual Mindscape

I have always thought that being forced to write your fantasies down and describe them to someone is a useful exercise in creating more intimacy with yourself.
My firm belief is that until an individual has deep clarity within themselves about their likes and dislikes, they will not be able to attract someone to them who is able to give them what they need. Those of you who are in committed relationships will not be able to sit down and have a coherent discussion about your kinky desires with your partner until you can maturely describe and talk about what you want without being vague, getting embarrassed, hinting at what you want, or making her/him guess.
A homework assignment for all of you: take the luxury of sitting down with a pen and paper and writing down, in sumptuous detail, your naughtiest or most transgressive fantasy. Really embellish it until it is the grandest fantasy you can imagine. Now sit down in front of a mirror and read it out loud to yourself, as though you were reading it to another person. Allow your voice to convey the passion of the words you are speaking. Do it until 1. You are no longer shy about speaking it aloud 2. You are so lusty in your description that you get turned on by your own voice 3. It becomes obvious to you that you are speaking your heart's desire.

Now you can start thinking about repeating the performance to an actual audience. You never know, you might just get what you want!

Monday, October 13, 2008

Happy Birthday to Me!

October 19 being the magic day, I have begun my annual recap of the year past and have concluded that I now know four new bits of wisdom that I didn't know last year about this time:
1. The extent to which pervy people make me happy.
2. That I like poking things just to see what happens.
3. How many different practical applications there are for a toothbrush.
4. That true devotion is priceless.
I am greatful for each and every scene as a learning experience and a source of much sensual richness in my life.
Happy thanksgiving!