"There are two kinds of strengths: the strength to lead, and the strength to follow; alternately put, the strength to control, and the strength to yield. There are two kinds of power: the power to strip away another's soul bare, and the power to stand naked."
-Yaldah Tovah
Monday, August 2, 2010
Monday, July 5, 2010
Mindfuck
I think the following is a very well stated definition of what many mean when they say that they are looking for a domme who can get into their heads, or who can psychologically top them. The following takes the session from a series of mechanical activities to a head trip/mind fuck. Do you agree?
"Emotional buttons are hot spots in a submissive's psyche that can be triggered by a dominant. Pushing someone's buttons engenders within them a loss of self-control. In S/M, we push each other's buttons to open or expand our partner's sensory and sexual experience. We do this by using one type of energy: embarrassment, anxiety, fear, etc. to spark another: sexual tension.
By agreeing to be submissive to you, your partner gives you permission to channel his emotional reactions into sexuality. As his dominant, your mission is to control the flow and intensity of his emotions. You let him emote sexually as you press the buttons that keep him off balance. With his equilibrium distrubed and you controlling his environment, sensations, and movement, he starts to you for stability and security. Even though you are the one causing his distress, as long as you communicate confidence, keep him safe, and erotically stimulated, your control will increase and the session will become more intense." - Miller & Devon.
"Emotional buttons are hot spots in a submissive's psyche that can be triggered by a dominant. Pushing someone's buttons engenders within them a loss of self-control. In S/M, we push each other's buttons to open or expand our partner's sensory and sexual experience. We do this by using one type of energy: embarrassment, anxiety, fear, etc. to spark another: sexual tension.
By agreeing to be submissive to you, your partner gives you permission to channel his emotional reactions into sexuality. As his dominant, your mission is to control the flow and intensity of his emotions. You let him emote sexually as you press the buttons that keep him off balance. With his equilibrium distrubed and you controlling his environment, sensations, and movement, he starts to you for stability and security. Even though you are the one causing his distress, as long as you communicate confidence, keep him safe, and erotically stimulated, your control will increase and the session will become more intense." - Miller & Devon.
Monday, June 21, 2010
G8 plus G20 equals a big pain in the ass!
So the world converges upon Toronto, as most Torontonians attempt to get as far out of the city as the possibly can. If you happen to be watching the evening news and see a protester decked out in thigh high PVC boots and a catsuit with a bullwhip in one hand and a megaphone in the other, yelling something along the lines of "MR. HARPER, YOU'VE BEEN A VERY VERY NAUGHTY BOY..."....it may just be me!
Monday, June 7, 2010
Need Your Feedback!
I am working on two new workshops.
One is for men who have submissive desires but who are too afraid of compromising their masculinity (or maybe just too ashamed, guilt-ridden, or afraid) to explore them.
The second is for female partners of men who have kinky desires, in order to help them better understand their guys' kinks.
I am aware that guys aren't necessarily interested in group workshops with other men. Not always into discussing feelings, much less subversive desires, I realize...so I want to ask: What would make you feel comfortable attending a workshop with other guys with submissive interests? What elements would need to be there?
You can either post your feedback as comments or email Me at the_alchemical_seductress@inbox.com.
Thanks in advance!
One is for men who have submissive desires but who are too afraid of compromising their masculinity (or maybe just too ashamed, guilt-ridden, or afraid) to explore them.
The second is for female partners of men who have kinky desires, in order to help them better understand their guys' kinks.
I am aware that guys aren't necessarily interested in group workshops with other men. Not always into discussing feelings, much less subversive desires, I realize...so I want to ask: What would make you feel comfortable attending a workshop with other guys with submissive interests? What elements would need to be there?
You can either post your feedback as comments or email Me at the_alchemical_seductress@inbox.com.
Thanks in advance!
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
!On Vacation!
Please note that I am on vacation on the East Coast from June 2 until June 10 inclusive. I will not be booking sessions during that time. I may or may not be responding to queries, depending on whether or not internet access exists where I am going.
If you would like to book something for June 11 onward, please send Me a note. Just know that My response time will not be as quick as usual!
Have a spankingly good first week of June...!
If you would like to book something for June 11 onward, please send Me a note. Just know that My response time will not be as quick as usual!
Have a spankingly good first week of June...!
Friday, May 21, 2010
Kinky Quote of the Day: The Good of BDSM
"BDSM gives you a better sense of perspective – about power, about sensation, about the limits of the body. We learn the difference between power and force.
BDSM allows us to access the dark side of our personalities, validates that the more aggressive, confrontational, unsocialized, kinky side has a place as important as any other aspect of our selves – so it doesn’t leak out in unconscious, unhealthy, unproductive ways.
BDSM teaches us better negotiation and communication skills. It allows us to learn our limits and boundaries. BDSM teaches us about trust. It teaches us how to articulate and pursue our desires.
BDSM allows us to give up or stop that constant inner monologue, that self-monitoring, and gives us a “vacation” from the self. It allows us to set aside certain parts of the self and develop other parts.
BDSM is fun. It feels good. That is an end, a good, in itself and doesn’t need any further justification."
-Dr. Richard A. Sprott is a developmental psychologist and active in the leather community of the San Francisco Bay Area.
BDSM allows us to access the dark side of our personalities, validates that the more aggressive, confrontational, unsocialized, kinky side has a place as important as any other aspect of our selves – so it doesn’t leak out in unconscious, unhealthy, unproductive ways.
BDSM teaches us better negotiation and communication skills. It allows us to learn our limits and boundaries. BDSM teaches us about trust. It teaches us how to articulate and pursue our desires.
BDSM allows us to give up or stop that constant inner monologue, that self-monitoring, and gives us a “vacation” from the self. It allows us to set aside certain parts of the self and develop other parts.
BDSM is fun. It feels good. That is an end, a good, in itself and doesn’t need any further justification."
-Dr. Richard A. Sprott is a developmental psychologist and active in the leather community of the San Francisco Bay Area.
Saturday, May 15, 2010
Eastern Canada is calling...
It just so happens that I will be visiting PEI from June 3-June 10. If there is interest, I may be able to fit some sessions in on the 5, 6, 7, or 8th of June.
Interest must be communicated to Me before June 1 so that the logistics can be arranged.
See you soon!
Interest must be communicated to Me before June 1 so that the logistics can be arranged.
See you soon!
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