Those who have been following my blog know that I have just returned from some rather intensive travelling, and am now back in Toronto solidly through the fall and winter. My intention during this period is to take you deeper into your submission, into the reality of your quest for subservience to the Divine Feminine. I am thrilled that more and more of you are awakening to the realization that you are incomplete without Her presence, and I am eager to guide those of you who are willing...
I genuinely look forward to hearing from all of you!
Sunday, August 31, 2008
Monday, August 18, 2008
The Handy Guide to Creative BDSM Toy Sources
I thought I'd republish this list, found on http://www.sexuality.org/, for all those kinky people who either don't live near, or are too shy to visit a BDSM specialty store or sex shop. Often called "pervertables", you'd be surprised how many household and everyday items can morph into kinky props. The fact that most of these things are quite inexpensive is an added bonus!
Music Stores: Metal banjo picks (excellent and inexpensive "claws"), tambourine brushes, drumsticks, sound effect toys.
Beauty Supplies: Rubber bands, clips and clamps, hairbrushes.
Theatrical/Magic: Blacklights and strobe lights, mindfuck props, costuming, fake blood, stage knives, rope tricks, itching powder.
Kitchen/Home: Bathroom accessories (loofah sponges, mitts), spatulas, cutting board paddles, cheese graters, pickle pinchers, wooden spoons, rice paddles, plastic window blind closing rods (good canes).
Pet Stores: Collars, leashes, bells, dog food bowls, cages, remote electrical shock collars. Veterinary supply sells horse and dog bit gags, forceps, sterile needles, some restraints.
Fishing Stores: (Warning: fishhooks are not safe for piercing play!) Fiberglass rods, weights, pliers and clamps, fish scaler (abrasion toy), bells with clips.
Tack Shops: Riding crops, harnesses and bridles, horse hobbles.
Marine Supply: Rope, winches, quick-release snaps, pulleys.
Climbing Supply: Heavy duty ropes, carabiners, suspension harnesses.
Auto Parts: "Parts retriever" gripping toy, funnels, windshield wiper blades, vinyl cleaner.
Pharmacies: Menthol rubs, Ace bandages, douches and enemas, aspirin (increases bruising), snakebite kits, Betadine, First Aid and safety gear, cotton swabs, disinfectants, Baby Wipes.
Dollar Store: Cheap clothespins, tupperware drawers to organize your toys.
Toy Stores: Toy paddles, jumping rope, age play accessories.
Thrift Shops: Cheap leather and fur coats to recycle, leather belts, "tearaway" or disposable clothing to rip off your body.
Groceries: Foodplay items like cucumbers and other insertion toys, whipped cream, tabasco and hot sauces (not insertion toys).
Sporting Goods: Muscle rub, paddles, fiberglass fishing rods, chin-up bars can be installed for bondage, camping "potty chairs" for watersports play.
Hardware/Lumber: Rope, tarps, paint mixers (great little paddles), bungee cord, snap hooks and connectors, clamps, sandpaper, dowel rods for canes or spreader bars, eye bolts, chains, alligator clips, plastic rods, small inner tubes (slice lengthwise for flogger).
Medical/Lab Supply: Catheters, enema gear, forceps, latex, needles, scalpels, disinfectants, ambulance shears (emergency bondage cutter), urethral sounds, speculums, restraints, backboards, c-spine collars and rigid braces.
Music Stores: Metal banjo picks (excellent and inexpensive "claws"), tambourine brushes, drumsticks, sound effect toys.
Beauty Supplies: Rubber bands, clips and clamps, hairbrushes.
Theatrical/Magic: Blacklights and strobe lights, mindfuck props, costuming, fake blood, stage knives, rope tricks, itching powder.
Kitchen/Home: Bathroom accessories (loofah sponges, mitts), spatulas, cutting board paddles, cheese graters, pickle pinchers, wooden spoons, rice paddles, plastic window blind closing rods (good canes).
Pet Stores: Collars, leashes, bells, dog food bowls, cages, remote electrical shock collars. Veterinary supply sells horse and dog bit gags, forceps, sterile needles, some restraints.
Fishing Stores: (Warning: fishhooks are not safe for piercing play!) Fiberglass rods, weights, pliers and clamps, fish scaler (abrasion toy), bells with clips.
Tack Shops: Riding crops, harnesses and bridles, horse hobbles.
Marine Supply: Rope, winches, quick-release snaps, pulleys.
Climbing Supply: Heavy duty ropes, carabiners, suspension harnesses.
Auto Parts: "Parts retriever" gripping toy, funnels, windshield wiper blades, vinyl cleaner.
Pharmacies: Menthol rubs, Ace bandages, douches and enemas, aspirin (increases bruising), snakebite kits, Betadine, First Aid and safety gear, cotton swabs, disinfectants, Baby Wipes.
Dollar Store: Cheap clothespins, tupperware drawers to organize your toys.
Toy Stores: Toy paddles, jumping rope, age play accessories.
Thrift Shops: Cheap leather and fur coats to recycle, leather belts, "tearaway" or disposable clothing to rip off your body.
Groceries: Foodplay items like cucumbers and other insertion toys, whipped cream, tabasco and hot sauces (not insertion toys).
Sporting Goods: Muscle rub, paddles, fiberglass fishing rods, chin-up bars can be installed for bondage, camping "potty chairs" for watersports play.
Hardware/Lumber: Rope, tarps, paint mixers (great little paddles), bungee cord, snap hooks and connectors, clamps, sandpaper, dowel rods for canes or spreader bars, eye bolts, chains, alligator clips, plastic rods, small inner tubes (slice lengthwise for flogger).
Medical/Lab Supply: Catheters, enema gear, forceps, latex, needles, scalpels, disinfectants, ambulance shears (emergency bondage cutter), urethral sounds, speculums, restraints, backboards, c-spine collars and rigid braces.
Saturday, July 26, 2008
Better the devil you know...
As of tommorrow, I will be on a plane to the Middle East. Watching news reports on the progress of the peace agreement between Palestine and Israel, and the looming threats from Iran, have been making me think about how our unconscious "shadow" side doesn't just play out on an individual level (see my previous post on Shadow Play), but on a national and collective level as well. It plays itself out in wars, corruption, famine, genocide, environmental destruction, and nuclear threats. The choices that world leaders make to engage in or initiate such horrors are usually based in unconscious attempts to "gain" or "re-gain" power and control at all costs.
It is remarkable to me that the general population has so much difficulty accepting BDSM, or conscious erotic power play, but remains apathetic about politicians' unconscious and destructive attempts at dominating others.
Now, some would disagree with the latter statement, saying that BDSM is just replicating this nastiness and why would anyone want to...?
My reply to these people is that we all have power. We all have the power to dominate and we all have the ability to give our power away. We do it all the time whether we are aware of it or not, at work, at home, at church, with friends. Do you want to consciously choose how you excercise your power, or do you want to let your unconscious and reptilian instincts run the show? We all do one or the other. Power is, well, a powerful thing. Own yours and see what happens...
Have a wonderful couple of weeks. I will be resuming sessions as of Aug. 17.
It is remarkable to me that the general population has so much difficulty accepting BDSM, or conscious erotic power play, but remains apathetic about politicians' unconscious and destructive attempts at dominating others.
Now, some would disagree with the latter statement, saying that BDSM is just replicating this nastiness and why would anyone want to...?
My reply to these people is that we all have power. We all have the power to dominate and we all have the ability to give our power away. We do it all the time whether we are aware of it or not, at work, at home, at church, with friends. Do you want to consciously choose how you excercise your power, or do you want to let your unconscious and reptilian instincts run the show? We all do one or the other. Power is, well, a powerful thing. Own yours and see what happens...
Have a wonderful couple of weeks. I will be resuming sessions as of Aug. 17.
Monday, July 21, 2008
This Week - Last Chance for a Session...
Not permanently, fortunately, I'd miss your naughty asses all too much. But I will be travelling as of this coming Sunday July 27, and would like to facilitate some memorable sessions (jerk-off material to travel by?? )
I am available this week between 9am and 9pm, inclusive of Saturday.
I am available this week between 9am and 9pm, inclusive of Saturday.
Sunday, July 20, 2008
Shadow Play
Psychologist Carl Jung suggested that we all have a part of our personality that is in the shadows. It is the part of ourselves that we deny is present in ourselves, but can often spot a hundred miles away in someone else. Have you ever complained about a particular characteristic that annoys you in others, only to have your significant other turn around and accuse you of the very same thing (while you adamantly deny it)? What they are pointing out is a part of your shadow self.
Kinky, or less socially acceptable sexual desires and fantasies, are very often cast into our shadow selves. We rarely want to acknowledge in our everyday lives how "slutty" or "horny" we actually are, how "twisted and bizarre" our fantasies are, how much we want to feel "sexually vulnerable" or "exposed" or "exhibited". And the more we try to deny that this energy is not a part of us, the more it rules us from the background, influencing our choices and decisions for better or for worse without our being cognizant of the extent of its actual impact.
Early shamanic cultures and societies had rituals and ceremonies whereby they would access the "shadow" parts of their personalities, and believed that in facing them, they would no longer be at the effect of the shadow's power over their lives. The same occurs today in modern psychotherapy, whereby we are encouraged to delve into and expose the parts of ourselves that we are less than proud of, with the intention of growing and ultimately becoming a "better person".
A common misconception that people have when presented with these statements is that addressing the "shadow" makes it disappear once and for all. This is incorrect. What we are doing is bringing the "unacceptable" from the dark unconscious backgrounds of our psyches into the bright spotlight of our conscious awareness. We cannot control what we are not aware exists, so in discovering what lies in our shadow we are achieving a degree of mastery over it. The shadow is no longer an annoying backseat driver, but an interesting travelling companion sitting next to you in the front seat.
If you are one of the many who have forced your so-called dark fantasies of erotic power exchange deep down into your psyche because you believed that they were too scary to look at, I invite you to join me for an exploratory session. By submitting, you become master of the domain of yourself.
Kinky, or less socially acceptable sexual desires and fantasies, are very often cast into our shadow selves. We rarely want to acknowledge in our everyday lives how "slutty" or "horny" we actually are, how "twisted and bizarre" our fantasies are, how much we want to feel "sexually vulnerable" or "exposed" or "exhibited". And the more we try to deny that this energy is not a part of us, the more it rules us from the background, influencing our choices and decisions for better or for worse without our being cognizant of the extent of its actual impact.
Early shamanic cultures and societies had rituals and ceremonies whereby they would access the "shadow" parts of their personalities, and believed that in facing them, they would no longer be at the effect of the shadow's power over their lives. The same occurs today in modern psychotherapy, whereby we are encouraged to delve into and expose the parts of ourselves that we are less than proud of, with the intention of growing and ultimately becoming a "better person".
A common misconception that people have when presented with these statements is that addressing the "shadow" makes it disappear once and for all. This is incorrect. What we are doing is bringing the "unacceptable" from the dark unconscious backgrounds of our psyches into the bright spotlight of our conscious awareness. We cannot control what we are not aware exists, so in discovering what lies in our shadow we are achieving a degree of mastery over it. The shadow is no longer an annoying backseat driver, but an interesting travelling companion sitting next to you in the front seat.
If you are one of the many who have forced your so-called dark fantasies of erotic power exchange deep down into your psyche because you believed that they were too scary to look at, I invite you to join me for an exploratory session. By submitting, you become master of the domain of yourself.
Thursday, July 17, 2008
Session Availability for August
I will be travelling quite a bit in August, such that the dates that I will be available for sessions are significantly less than the dates I will be gone.
The following are the dates in August when I AM AVAILABLE TO BE BOOKED FOR SESSIONS:
Friday August 8
Sunday August 17 through Sunday August 24
If you are interested in booking me on one of the dates listed above, send me an email with preferred date and time and I will be in contact with you on August 7 (for August 8 sessions), or August 16 (for sessions during the week that follows) to confirm .
If you cannot make any of these times, please hang in there until September - I will be in Toronto solidly through the fall, winter, and spring.
The following are the dates in August when I AM AVAILABLE TO BE BOOKED FOR SESSIONS:
Friday August 8
Sunday August 17 through Sunday August 24
If you are interested in booking me on one of the dates listed above, send me an email with preferred date and time and I will be in contact with you on August 7 (for August 8 sessions), or August 16 (for sessions during the week that follows) to confirm .
If you cannot make any of these times, please hang in there until September - I will be in Toronto solidly through the fall, winter, and spring.
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Exclusive Behind-the-Scenes Shots...
While the professional photographers were busy snapping excellent photos, there was another sneaky someone lurking in corners, taking shots of the process. I think he did a pretty good job, don't you?
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