Suddenly, your bedroom fills with the sound of my seductive voice...

In a couple of months you will have the unique opportunity to experience a session with The Alchemical Seductress from the privacy of your own bedroom. I am in the process of recording interactive audio BDSM sessions onto a compact disc.

With this exclusive CD I am hoping to meet the needs of my long-distance fans who may not be able to travel to Toronto, as well as to provide a more economical option for those who are interested in sessions but cannot afford the standard tribute at this time.

The CD will be recorded as though I am speaking directly to you, and will include short gaps of time in which I will instruct you to follow various naughty instructions. At the start of the CD, you will be directed to gather certain items for use as per my direction over the course of the "session".

The themes have yet to be determined, but will likely include:
1. A classic bondage and discipline slave training scene
2. A foot/shoe fetish and trampling scene
3. A sissy slut training scene
4. Another surprise or two...


While the CD is still being created, I am offering you an opportunity to pre-purchase a copy at a reduced rate of $50.00 CDN. Contact me at the_alchemical_seductress@inbox.com to place your order and receive payment info.

I will ship it to you directly following its completion date, slated for June 1, 2009.

Everything I Needed To Know About Life I Learned From My Dominatrix: On Receptivity

Article three in a series. See previous posts.

Let’s get the following straight so that we can begin on the same page without miscommunication:

What receptivity is NOT:

-Coming into a scene thinking that you already know everything there is to know about being a submissive.
-Topping from the bottom.
-Trying to guess what Mistress wants before she makes a request or gives a command.
-Attempting or suggesting reciprocation for pleasure or sensation given.

Is any of that surprising?

I ask because men do not necessarily spend a lot of time being receptive. Their natural tendency based on societal conditioning is to DO things and then think about them after (maybe). Receptivity is a learned state for men, not because they do not have it within their make-up, but because men are not particularly encouraged to develop that part of themselves while growing up.

Perhaps you have one or two favourites from this list despite the fact that as a submissive you are meant to be receptive to orders, sensation, stimulation, prompting, etc.?

I have observed that many men tend to engage in one or more of the behaviours above, though perhaps not entirely consciously. They are covert ways of being active while under the guise of the submissive role. You will not experience the full pleasure of receptivity until you abandon these by the wayside.

So then what does it mean to be receptive?

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines receptivity as “…able or inclined to receive; open and responsive to ideas, impressions, or suggestions.”

If your arms are already carrying lots of boxes, how can you reach out to receive the gift that someone is offering you?
If your glass is already full, how can you sample a different wine?
If you think you already know what is going to happen, how can you be present to what actually does?

The key to receptivity is the state of emptiness. It is only when you are empty of all pre-conceived notions and ideas that you can hope to have room to take in new information or experience. When you step into scene play, start disciplining yourself by making the choice to be receptive to whatever Mistress weaves into your reality in the moment. Taste, touch, smell, and see it for the first time, as though travelling through a new landscape that you have never before explored, no matter how many times you have traversed similar terrain. Re-remember the wonder you had as a child, and apply it!

Everything I Needed to Know About Life I Learned From My Dominatrix: Letting Go of Control

This is article two in a series. See previous posts.

"When you get to the edge of all the light you have, and take that first step into the darkness of the unknown, you must trust that one of two things will happen: that there will be something solid for you to stand upon, or that you will be taught how to fly..." - Anonymous

I admit it. Sometimes I feel like a skydiving instructor. People contact Me saying "I've always wanted to try this but I'm terrified..." So I give them the lay of the land, assure them of safety procedures, and answer all their questions, until the only thing left is for them to show up. They board the plane, I take it up to 4000 feet.... and at the threshold, few and far between are the students who don't need an extra kick in the pants when I yell "JUMP". In fact, most need their fingers pried ruthlessly off the frame of the door having just decided that maybe, actually, they don't want to experience freefall after all and whose silly idea was this anyway?!

This is absolutely normal. And it has to do with your ability (or inability) to let go of control. Take the inability to let go one step further, and we discover what is really behind this seeming irrationality: fear of the unknown.

We are passionately attracted to the unknown, and yet it is one of the most terrifying places for us to be. Based on My studies in human potential and My own experience, I have learned that a possible reason for this phenomenon is as follows: Human beings, consciously or unconsciously, seek out growth experiences. However, when one grow, one becomes someone different than who one was before, which entails a loss of identity. Our egos, creatures of habit that they are, would prefer not to have this loss occur, but it is inevitable. A butterfly is no longer a caterpillar when it escapes its cucoon, and a newly collared slave is no longer free to do as he pleases vis a vis his Mistress. The new state is a rebirth of the self into something new: no more, and no less important than what came before.

Stepping across the threshold into My domain is like breaking out of the crysalis. And you can be certain that I will teach you how to fly...

Everything I Needed To Know About Life I Learned From My Dominatrix: Deprivation, Denial and Discipline

This is the first article in a series. Read my introduction in a previous post.

What on earth could possibly be good about deprivation and denial, and the discipline that gets learned as a result? If there are three words that inspire absolute repulsion in people it is those three. We live in an addictive society that is all about instant gratification. Press a button, and your groceries end up on your doorstep. Turn on your computer, and you can pick up women without leaving your bedroom. If we have to wait more than five minutes for something we say that it takes too long. It is as though we are contending with a societal pandemic of attention deficit disorder.
One could say that this is a good thing, an indication that we are evolving...but is it? Do we get the same kind of satisfaction from a microwave dinner as we would if we had grown the food ourselves, painstakingly prepared it and carefully cooked it? The former is certainly quicker than the latter. But it is the former that we are more likely to stuff down quickly in front of a television set. Satisfying? Not particularly!
It is the same in a BDSM session, particularly for those who are new to the game. One can look at the deprivation and denial in a session and be frustrated because what one perceives to be one's needs, whatever they are, are not being immediately addressed. Alternately, one can surrender to the deprivation in whatever form it takes, sublimating one's baser instincts for something much more inherently satisfying and fulfilling. This takes quite a lot of discipline and self-control,
but the benefits are significant. According to Tantric belief systems, the occasional circulation within the body of the energy of arousal without reaching a peak, or by taking a longer than usual time to peak, promotes health and vitalizes the organs. It cultivates discipline, which builds the integrity of one's character, teaches patience, and gives a person a sense of accomplishment. Lastly, the next time a "meal" does appear on your plate, ready for consumption, one will be able to slow down and consciously savour the precious gift of it with the satisfaction of knowing that one earned it!

Everything I Needed To Know About Life I Learned From My Dominatrix: Introduction

A wise man once told me with regards to my work as a Domme that it is not what I do, but how I do it that matters. He also told me that it is the intent behind my actions that determines the context, and that in that way the simplest of activities can become a ceremony to lead both Domme and sub further into self-awareness. Finally, he added that it is useless to talk about any of the above, because it must be experienced to be believed.

Over the next few weeks, I will be beginning a series of posts about some of the unusual, curious, or controversial aspects of a BDSM session, giving an alternate perspective on how to embrace such activities for personal self-development simply by shifting one`s intent, attitude, and approach.

I will touch on: deprivation, letting go of control, and receptivity to start.
Stay tuned...

Foot Lovin'

I have recieved numerous mock complaints from my devoted foot worshipers, pointing to the fact that I do not have a gallery of foot pics on my site. 'Tis true. So while I work my sexy little toes to create a foot gallery, here are a few stray pictures...try to resist the urge to lick the screen ;-)

All photos credited to photographer PT Potter.

Santa Clause Mystery Solved!

Watch this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cGTMJp4jtno

Have a very happy holidays!