Kinky Thought of the Day

"To experience the fullness of human experience, we need passivity and receptivity as well as assertion.
We need a sense of mystical wonder as well as rational problem solving.
We need to be in touch with what the psychoanalyst Carl Jung called "the shadow" - the weak, limited, degraded, sinful side of ourselves as well as the strong, loving, compassionate, competent side.
We need to move out from under the onus of our egocentric way of viewing life; to abdicate control as well as to take it.
Masochistic submission, in centering on lack, inadequacy and weakness, puts us in touch with the entirety of our humanity."

~ By Dorothy C. Hayden, in Masochism as a Spiritual Path

Visit to Montreal in August

So I am thinking of taking My show on the road. I have had enough of you over the last year emailing Me asking when I will be visiting "X, Y, and Z" place to have made the decision to try doing working tours. I will be starting with My hometown of Montreal, and if that goes well, I will try going a little further. The tour will be pending enough parties interested in sessions to make it worth the travel expenses, and will likely take place in August.
If you are a Montrealer, and potentially interested in a session with Me if I visit, please contact Me asap. I will be collecting a list of interested parties, whom I will notify if the trip occurs.

Ladies Taking Porn Into Their Own Hands

Last night I attended an event, now in its fourth year, called the Feminist Porn Awards. The only event of its kind in the world, it seeks to honour the best new porn films that women had a hand in making, producing, directing, etc., as well as ones that depict actual female pleasure and orgasm.

I have to say that the kinky films that won awards last night were some of the hottest I have ever seen, succesfully depicting BDSM as empowering and fulfilling without compromising the hardcore domination and submission content.

Especially worth checking out are films by Madison Young, a highly talented new adult film director and actress based out of San Fransisco.
The film clip showing Madison tied to a chair with her breasts bound, moaning as she slowly dripped wax on her hard nipples will not soon be forgotten ;-)

Leave You Hanging? My Pleasure!

Introducing the latest addition to my ever-more-formidable play space: The Brumbie Tower. A completely original design, this is a multifunctional bondage tower with a bend-over spanking bar attatchment. This model was made to fit my space, but the extraordinary woodworker who created it is willing to reproduce it to your measurements if you are interested in ordering one. Email me if you'd like his contact info!

This photograph was taken mid-assembly, sans chains, cuffs, collar, etc.

I have since prettied it up, and am wetly looking forward to lynching somebody on it! Arms restrained tightly above your head, your neck held in place with a leather collar hanging from the top of the structure, I can do absolutely anything I wish to you, while you look on helpless!

If your behaviour has been unquestionably bad, I may order you to bend over the spanking bar so that I can administer the kind of punishment I know you need.

Come play with Me. I promise to leave you hanging!

Kinky Thought of the Day

This quote is from a reading I had to do in university in Sexuality Studies...gotta love talking about kinky sex in class!

"Indeed, the outrage of S/M is precisely its hostility to the idea of Nature as the custodian of social power: S/M refuses to read power as fate or destiny. Since S/M is the theatrical exercise of social contradiction, it is self-consciously against Nature, not in the sense that it violates natural law, but in the sense that it denies the existence of natural law in the first place.
S/M performs social power as both contingent and constitutive, as sanctioned neither by fate nor by God, but by social convention and invention and thus open to historical change."

- Anne McClintock, "Maid to Order: Commercial S/M and Gender Power

Suddenly, your bedroom fills with the sound of my seductive voice...

In a couple of months you will have the unique opportunity to experience a session with The Alchemical Seductress from the privacy of your own bedroom. I am in the process of recording interactive audio BDSM sessions onto a compact disc.

With this exclusive CD I am hoping to meet the needs of my long-distance fans who may not be able to travel to Toronto, as well as to provide a more economical option for those who are interested in sessions but cannot afford the standard tribute at this time.

The CD will be recorded as though I am speaking directly to you, and will include short gaps of time in which I will instruct you to follow various naughty instructions. At the start of the CD, you will be directed to gather certain items for use as per my direction over the course of the "session".

The themes have yet to be determined, but will likely include:
1. A classic bondage and discipline slave training scene
2. A foot/shoe fetish and trampling scene
3. A sissy slut training scene
4. Another surprise or two...


While the CD is still being created, I am offering you an opportunity to pre-purchase a copy at a reduced rate of $50.00 CDN. Contact me at the_alchemical_seductress@inbox.com to place your order and receive payment info.

I will ship it to you directly following its completion date, slated for June 1, 2009.

Everything I Needed To Know About Life I Learned From My Dominatrix: On Receptivity

Article three in a series. See previous posts.

Let’s get the following straight so that we can begin on the same page without miscommunication:

What receptivity is NOT:

-Coming into a scene thinking that you already know everything there is to know about being a submissive.
-Topping from the bottom.
-Trying to guess what Mistress wants before she makes a request or gives a command.
-Attempting or suggesting reciprocation for pleasure or sensation given.

Is any of that surprising?

I ask because men do not necessarily spend a lot of time being receptive. Their natural tendency based on societal conditioning is to DO things and then think about them after (maybe). Receptivity is a learned state for men, not because they do not have it within their make-up, but because men are not particularly encouraged to develop that part of themselves while growing up.

Perhaps you have one or two favourites from this list despite the fact that as a submissive you are meant to be receptive to orders, sensation, stimulation, prompting, etc.?

I have observed that many men tend to engage in one or more of the behaviours above, though perhaps not entirely consciously. They are covert ways of being active while under the guise of the submissive role. You will not experience the full pleasure of receptivity until you abandon these by the wayside.

So then what does it mean to be receptive?

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines receptivity as “…able or inclined to receive; open and responsive to ideas, impressions, or suggestions.”

If your arms are already carrying lots of boxes, how can you reach out to receive the gift that someone is offering you?
If your glass is already full, how can you sample a different wine?
If you think you already know what is going to happen, how can you be present to what actually does?

The key to receptivity is the state of emptiness. It is only when you are empty of all pre-conceived notions and ideas that you can hope to have room to take in new information or experience. When you step into scene play, start disciplining yourself by making the choice to be receptive to whatever Mistress weaves into your reality in the moment. Taste, touch, smell, and see it for the first time, as though travelling through a new landscape that you have never before explored, no matter how many times you have traversed similar terrain. Re-remember the wonder you had as a child, and apply it!