Mapping Your Sexual Mindscape

I have always thought that being forced to write your fantasies down and describe them to someone is a useful exercise in creating more intimacy with yourself.
My firm belief is that until an individual has deep clarity within themselves about their likes and dislikes, they will not be able to attract someone to them who is able to give them what they need. Those of you who are in committed relationships will not be able to sit down and have a coherent discussion about your kinky desires with your partner until you can maturely describe and talk about what you want without being vague, getting embarrassed, hinting at what you want, or making her/him guess.
A homework assignment for all of you: take the luxury of sitting down with a pen and paper and writing down, in sumptuous detail, your naughtiest or most transgressive fantasy. Really embellish it until it is the grandest fantasy you can imagine. Now sit down in front of a mirror and read it out loud to yourself, as though you were reading it to another person. Allow your voice to convey the passion of the words you are speaking. Do it until 1. You are no longer shy about speaking it aloud 2. You are so lusty in your description that you get turned on by your own voice 3. It becomes obvious to you that you are speaking your heart's desire.

Now you can start thinking about repeating the performance to an actual audience. You never know, you might just get what you want!