Saturday, February 13, 2010

Gone Fishing

Will be back March 10. My email access will only be sporadic while away so if you must email Me, do so closer to My return date.

Thursday, February 4, 2010

Room for you? If you act quickly...

Session slots are disappearing at a rapid rate over the next week, so if you'd like to see Me before I vanish to the cultural masterpiece that is London, England, do crawl forward sooner rather than later!

I am taking sessions up to 3pm on the 15th of February, after which you will be spanking your own rosy bottoms until I return on the 10th of March. Not the same, I know, but until I devise a way to fit you all in my luggage while evading suitcase weight restrictions, I'm afraid you'll all have to stay here.

Never having visited the UK, I am looking forward to witnessing first-hand the country that practically invented power dynamics, and whose public officials are more likely to get caught in a scandal involving sordid kinky sexual sheninigans than any other offense!

All tongue-in-cheek, of course - I have a soft spot for Brits.

Hope to see familiar faces before I leave, and if not, have a wonderful winter and I'll see you after March 10...

Whips and kisses,
Her Majesty Princess Shahrazad

Monday, February 1, 2010

Want a Treat?


Sensual Control Versus Sadomasochism

"I fantasize a lot about being dominated by a sexy, powerful woman, but I am not really very much into pain."

Can you relate to this statement? Seems most people who contact Me can - about 75% of new queries that I've received in the last three months contained a variation of this statement, enough to make the social scientist in Me go "Hmmm".

There seems to be a popular misconception out there that Dominas are always sadists (people who get off inflicting pain on others) and that submissives are ALWAYS masochists (people who get off on experiencing pain). This myth is so pervasive that it makes potential submissives doubt themselves and their desires (ie. If they don't like being hurt, then can they still be a good or useful submissive...?)

The answer to that question is: Of course they can!

The term BDSM has a triple meaning: Bondage and Discipline (B/D), Domination and Submission (D/S), and Sadism and Masochism (S/M). Though S/M is only a third of what kinky play encompasses, it gets focused on by popular media because the experience of pain as sexual pleasure is controversial and can be easily sensationalized.

What happens is that the more sensual forms of playing with power, those that focus on administering sensual control or being sensually controlled, get swept under the rug. Things like bondage and restraint, foot/boot/shoe worship, slave training, strap-on play, orgasm restriction, coerced self-stimulation, role play, tease and denial, forced feminization, and sensory deprivation (to name a few) do not necessary involve pain and yet I can promise that you will feel deliciously controlled and overpowered by Me when experiencing them.

If S/M genuinely is your kink, then enjoy it! If it isn't, though, don't second guess your submissive urges. Not everyone is a painslut. As Rumi says, there are a hundred ways to kneel and kiss the ground.