As of tommorrow, I will be on a plane to the Middle East. Watching news reports on the progress of the peace agreement between Palestine and Israel, and the looming threats from Iran, have been making me think about how our unconscious "shadow" side doesn't just play out on an individual level (see my previous post on Shadow Play), but on a national and collective level as well. It plays itself out in wars, corruption, famine, genocide, environmental destruction, and nuclear threats. The choices that world leaders make to engage in or initiate such horrors are usually based in unconscious attempts to "gain" or "re-gain" power and control at all costs.
It is remarkable to me that the general population has so much difficulty accepting BDSM, or conscious erotic power play, but remains apathetic about politicians' unconscious and destructive attempts at dominating others.
Now, some would disagree with the latter statement, saying that BDSM is just replicating this nastiness and why would anyone want to...?
My reply to these people is that we all have power. We all have the power to dominate and we all have the ability to give our power away. We do it all the time whether we are aware of it or not, at work, at home, at church, with friends. Do you want to consciously choose how you excercise your power, or do you want to let your unconscious and reptilian instincts run the show? We all do one or the other. Power is, well, a powerful thing. Own yours and see what happens...
Have a wonderful couple of weeks. I will be resuming sessions as of Aug. 17.
Saturday, July 26, 2008
Monday, July 21, 2008
This Week - Last Chance for a Session...
Not permanently, fortunately, I'd miss your naughty asses all too much. But I will be travelling as of this coming Sunday July 27, and would like to facilitate some memorable sessions (jerk-off material to travel by?? )
I am available this week between 9am and 9pm, inclusive of Saturday.
I am available this week between 9am and 9pm, inclusive of Saturday.
Sunday, July 20, 2008
Shadow Play
Psychologist Carl Jung suggested that we all have a part of our personality that is in the shadows. It is the part of ourselves that we deny is present in ourselves, but can often spot a hundred miles away in someone else. Have you ever complained about a particular characteristic that annoys you in others, only to have your significant other turn around and accuse you of the very same thing (while you adamantly deny it)? What they are pointing out is a part of your shadow self.
Kinky, or less socially acceptable sexual desires and fantasies, are very often cast into our shadow selves. We rarely want to acknowledge in our everyday lives how "slutty" or "horny" we actually are, how "twisted and bizarre" our fantasies are, how much we want to feel "sexually vulnerable" or "exposed" or "exhibited". And the more we try to deny that this energy is not a part of us, the more it rules us from the background, influencing our choices and decisions for better or for worse without our being cognizant of the extent of its actual impact.
Early shamanic cultures and societies had rituals and ceremonies whereby they would access the "shadow" parts of their personalities, and believed that in facing them, they would no longer be at the effect of the shadow's power over their lives. The same occurs today in modern psychotherapy, whereby we are encouraged to delve into and expose the parts of ourselves that we are less than proud of, with the intention of growing and ultimately becoming a "better person".
A common misconception that people have when presented with these statements is that addressing the "shadow" makes it disappear once and for all. This is incorrect. What we are doing is bringing the "unacceptable" from the dark unconscious backgrounds of our psyches into the bright spotlight of our conscious awareness. We cannot control what we are not aware exists, so in discovering what lies in our shadow we are achieving a degree of mastery over it. The shadow is no longer an annoying backseat driver, but an interesting travelling companion sitting next to you in the front seat.
If you are one of the many who have forced your so-called dark fantasies of erotic power exchange deep down into your psyche because you believed that they were too scary to look at, I invite you to join me for an exploratory session. By submitting, you become master of the domain of yourself.
Kinky, or less socially acceptable sexual desires and fantasies, are very often cast into our shadow selves. We rarely want to acknowledge in our everyday lives how "slutty" or "horny" we actually are, how "twisted and bizarre" our fantasies are, how much we want to feel "sexually vulnerable" or "exposed" or "exhibited". And the more we try to deny that this energy is not a part of us, the more it rules us from the background, influencing our choices and decisions for better or for worse without our being cognizant of the extent of its actual impact.
Early shamanic cultures and societies had rituals and ceremonies whereby they would access the "shadow" parts of their personalities, and believed that in facing them, they would no longer be at the effect of the shadow's power over their lives. The same occurs today in modern psychotherapy, whereby we are encouraged to delve into and expose the parts of ourselves that we are less than proud of, with the intention of growing and ultimately becoming a "better person".
A common misconception that people have when presented with these statements is that addressing the "shadow" makes it disappear once and for all. This is incorrect. What we are doing is bringing the "unacceptable" from the dark unconscious backgrounds of our psyches into the bright spotlight of our conscious awareness. We cannot control what we are not aware exists, so in discovering what lies in our shadow we are achieving a degree of mastery over it. The shadow is no longer an annoying backseat driver, but an interesting travelling companion sitting next to you in the front seat.
If you are one of the many who have forced your so-called dark fantasies of erotic power exchange deep down into your psyche because you believed that they were too scary to look at, I invite you to join me for an exploratory session. By submitting, you become master of the domain of yourself.
Thursday, July 17, 2008
Session Availability for August
I will be travelling quite a bit in August, such that the dates that I will be available for sessions are significantly less than the dates I will be gone.
The following are the dates in August when I AM AVAILABLE TO BE BOOKED FOR SESSIONS:
Friday August 8
Sunday August 17 through Sunday August 24
If you are interested in booking me on one of the dates listed above, send me an email with preferred date and time and I will be in contact with you on August 7 (for August 8 sessions), or August 16 (for sessions during the week that follows) to confirm .
If you cannot make any of these times, please hang in there until September - I will be in Toronto solidly through the fall, winter, and spring.
The following are the dates in August when I AM AVAILABLE TO BE BOOKED FOR SESSIONS:
Friday August 8
Sunday August 17 through Sunday August 24
If you are interested in booking me on one of the dates listed above, send me an email with preferred date and time and I will be in contact with you on August 7 (for August 8 sessions), or August 16 (for sessions during the week that follows) to confirm .
If you cannot make any of these times, please hang in there until September - I will be in Toronto solidly through the fall, winter, and spring.
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Exclusive Behind-the-Scenes Shots...
While the professional photographers were busy snapping excellent photos, there was another sneaky someone lurking in corners, taking shots of the process. I think he did a pretty good job, don't you?
Sunday, July 13, 2008
Brand New - Teaser Photos from the Recent Shoot!
These are only a couple of almost a thousand fantastic photos from last week's shoot with photographer David Oxley and his associate photographer Scott. Hot off the press, they are only a taste of what's to come...
Enjoy!!
Saturday, July 12, 2008
The Top's Eye View
I unleash a deluge of sensations upon you
Watching you watching me like a newborn
Experiencing pleasure experiencing pain
Experiencing wind and ice and water and fire
For the first time
Each time like the first time
So present in a moment
That no sensation can ever possibly repeat
Itself.
-Shahrazad
Watching you watching me like a newborn
Experiencing pleasure experiencing pain
Experiencing wind and ice and water and fire
For the first time
Each time like the first time
So present in a moment
That no sensation can ever possibly repeat
Itself.
-Shahrazad
Thursday, July 10, 2008
Words Worth Mentioning!
Ever wish you had a clever come-back for people who can't seem to get their heads around kinky sex? Try this:
"The only 'unnatural' sex is that which you cannot physically perform." ...Alfred Kinsey
Or this:
"There's nothing either good or bad ... but thinking makes it so!" ...William Shakespeare
Going back and forth about whether or not to book a session with The Alchemical Seductress? Think about this:
"A man who has not passed through the inferno of his passions has not overcome them." ...Carl Jung
Looking for a good pick-up line to use on that Domme you met at a fetish party? Try this:
"Thou art to me a delicious torment." ...Ralph Waldo Emerson
Absolutely confused about the relationship between BDSM and spirituality? Read this:
"A submissive washing dishes for his dominant, knowing that each soap bubble, each swirl of water is a gift, an honoring, may feel the humming resonance of a hunger, partially satisfied, deep in his spirit. A domme, caught up in the meditative precision of tying each knot precisely *so*, may feel an echo of cathedral walls around her, each motion guiding her, and those around her closer to the God they seek. A masochist, floating in the scintillations of painwaves as the whip falls against her time and time again, may begin to feel their cadence as the cadence of prayer. A hesitant sadist may, with the first hissing of his partner's breath, begin to understand the transformative power he wields with his strap." ...Unknown
"The only 'unnatural' sex is that which you cannot physically perform." ...Alfred Kinsey
Or this:
"There's nothing either good or bad ... but thinking makes it so!" ...William Shakespeare
Going back and forth about whether or not to book a session with The Alchemical Seductress? Think about this:
"A man who has not passed through the inferno of his passions has not overcome them." ...Carl Jung
Looking for a good pick-up line to use on that Domme you met at a fetish party? Try this:
"Thou art to me a delicious torment." ...Ralph Waldo Emerson
Absolutely confused about the relationship between BDSM and spirituality? Read this:
"A submissive washing dishes for his dominant, knowing that each soap bubble, each swirl of water is a gift, an honoring, may feel the humming resonance of a hunger, partially satisfied, deep in his spirit. A domme, caught up in the meditative precision of tying each knot precisely *so*, may feel an echo of cathedral walls around her, each motion guiding her, and those around her closer to the God they seek. A masochist, floating in the scintillations of painwaves as the whip falls against her time and time again, may begin to feel their cadence as the cadence of prayer. A hesitant sadist may, with the first hissing of his partner's breath, begin to understand the transformative power he wields with his strap." ...Unknown
Saturday, July 5, 2008
What is Sexual Freedom, Really?
We might as well be sleeping with our priests, parents, politicians, and doctors. A provocative statement, for sure, but think about it: When we decide to engage sexually with whomever we happen to fancy in the moment, it's not just you and her (or him), a pile of condoms, whips, rope, and several hours of free time.
Who we are and how we behave sexually, what our sexual do's and don'ts are, are impacted by the sex negative conditioning that most of us have been unable to escape in the way we've been socialized. Be honest with yourself - when was the last time you were so totally present with whomever you were engaging with that you couldn't hear the little voices in your head providing a continuous self-critique? And curiously, aren't those thoughts the very same things that your dad or mom used to say, that your priest or other religious leader mentioned in sermon when you were a kid, that some other authority figure used to tell you to shame you into thinking that there was something inherently wrong with your sexual fantasies and desires?
"You are a dirty old man for liking this.", "I'll go to hell for behaving this way." "Masturbation is only for lonely desperate people.""Kinky sex is perversion and inherently sick, therefore I must be..."
We don't give ourselves half a moment to wonder when or why the hell we started believing all these things anyway, or if they actually make sense...
Human sexuality is wonderfully complex and diverse. In my opinion, as long as engagements are consensual and safe, who cares whether you get off having a latex-wearing cowboy fuck you from behind while you're dressed in drag as Barbara Streisand?
Who we are and how we behave sexually, what our sexual do's and don'ts are, are impacted by the sex negative conditioning that most of us have been unable to escape in the way we've been socialized. Be honest with yourself - when was the last time you were so totally present with whomever you were engaging with that you couldn't hear the little voices in your head providing a continuous self-critique? And curiously, aren't those thoughts the very same things that your dad or mom used to say, that your priest or other religious leader mentioned in sermon when you were a kid, that some other authority figure used to tell you to shame you into thinking that there was something inherently wrong with your sexual fantasies and desires?
"You are a dirty old man for liking this.", "I'll go to hell for behaving this way." "Masturbation is only for lonely desperate people.""Kinky sex is perversion and inherently sick, therefore I must be..."
We don't give ourselves half a moment to wonder when or why the hell we started believing all these things anyway, or if they actually make sense...
Human sexuality is wonderfully complex and diverse. In my opinion, as long as engagements are consensual and safe, who cares whether you get off having a latex-wearing cowboy fuck you from behind while you're dressed in drag as Barbara Streisand?
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