The Playful Erotic: Dusting Off the Adult Imagination

She chased you to the back of the playground and told you she'd share her new crayons with you if you showed her what you had "down there". You tried kissing her with bubble gum in your mouth to see if you could share a "bubble". He often played "doctor" with his next-door-neighbour, always delighted when she rang him up complaining that she was "sick".

Somewhere along the line, most adults decide that sexual exploration is serious. Very, very serious. This wasn't always the case, as the examples above illustrate.

Perhaps it happens at puberty, with the self-consciousness of a changing body or the guidance (or misguidance) of a strict or nervous parent, or a little later with the increasing pressure of "performance", a partner's high expectations, or anxiety about pregnancy and STI's.

While those may have been, and may continue to be very real concerns, if you focus all of your attention on them you will miss out on one of the biggest secrets of joyful erotic connection: Humour, innocence, and PLAY!

I often joke with people, saying that My chosen field of work feels like being back in drama camp. I get to do face painting (make-up), wear costumes, and invent and play imagination games. I make the rules of the game, and if I don't like the game anymore I change it. It is true that the content of My games now are a little more adult oriented - but that is one of the pleasures and priviledges that comes with being an adult.

As a Dominant, one of My intentions is to re-awaken in you the spirit of play. Those of you've sessioned with Me know well the mischevious, impish grin that is never far from My lips. There is something very healing about taking the time to explore your fantasies in a space of unconditional acceptance and heck, even love. It means that the dirty little secrets don't take up as much of your psychic energy in the rest of your life. And, in shining a little more light on a formerly shameful, dusty dark corner of your mind, you may actually find a bit of the self-acceptance that so many desperately seek.