"BDSM gives you a better sense of perspective – about power, about sensation, about the limits of the body. We learn the difference between power and force.
BDSM allows us to access the dark side of our personalities, validates that the more aggressive, confrontational, unsocialized, kinky side has a place as important as any other aspect of our selves – so it doesn’t leak out in unconscious, unhealthy, unproductive ways.
BDSM teaches us better negotiation and communication skills. It allows us to learn our limits and boundaries. BDSM teaches us about trust. It teaches us how to articulate and pursue our desires.
BDSM allows us to give up or stop that constant inner monologue, that self-monitoring, and gives us a “vacation” from the self. It allows us to set aside certain parts of the self and develop other parts.
BDSM is fun. It feels good. That is an end, a good, in itself and doesn’t need any further justification."
-Dr. Richard A. Sprott is a developmental psychologist and active in the leather community of the San Francisco Bay Area.
1 comment:
Master,
Always a fascinating read. I like that he said "...vacation from the self." Interesting concept. I could use a "vacation" myself.
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