Anyone can point a gun to someone's head and force them into submission. Muggers and serial killers employ this technique to great success. If I threaten to hurt you, to really hurt you, you will likely do what I say. One could technically say that the "victim" in this case has been "dominated". However, I can tell you that as a Domme, brute force is not as interesting to me (most days of the week) as is the intoxication of psychological control.
A couple of years ago I had the pleasure of learning about sensual domination from international fetish diva and sex educator Midori. The most potent and memorable thing she said was that a great Dominatrix or Top will continually seduce their submissive into consent. I interperet this to mean that in every moment, the Domme offers the submissive a choice: To jump off the precipice into the unknown or not, while simultaneously making the unknown look so attractive that the submissive can't help but want to go there. Approaching domination in this way requires more presence, more artistry, and more skill. And the submissive, who in his perfect trust chooses to say yes to each opportunity presented, is giving their Top that much more meaningful a gift: conscious, willing surrender.
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